Regardless of what you do, if you want to lead a life that is truly meaningful, I’d love to support you
Life overwhelm is painful but it also holds the key to a calmer, more purposeful version of yourself
I coach women who feel tired from living a life that’s not truly theirs.
If you’ve been struggling with finding ease and purpose, there’s good reasons why.
It’s not just you that is at a threshold, but also, our world, groaning under the weight and pressure of systems that de-humanise and trample over what is beautiful and sacred.
You want to live a life filled with meaning and love, but this can be difficult, courageous and lonely work.
It’s hard because you have to straddle three realities:
Living every day life, juggling the work calendar, full inbox and every day life stuff (big and small).
Working out how to progress on the patterns you’re freshly aware of; holding a boundary with a colleague, feeling unheard by your loved ones.
A sensitivity to the many ways the world is going to hell in a handbasket, and sensing, however minutely, that another way of living is possible, not just for you, but for everyone.
And while it’s hard, there is something inside of you that is tugging at you to try to find a way out of this overwhelm. You know you can feel confident and alive. But while you’re trying so hard, it seems to be going nowhere. It’s incredibly frustrating:
You want to feel a sense of flow, but instead you wake up at 3am with worries that don’t make a lot of sense (you’re totally capable of navigating these issues) then are tired but wired during the day.
You’d love to feel a part of something bigger, but you find it hard to have the presence and clarity needed to work alongside other people.
You want to embody hope for those you love, and instead you feel irritable and snappy and lose perspective on everyday things or tune out more than you’d like.
Who I work with
My clients come from different professions but they share a desire for more alignment with their higher self.
You sense a voice inside you that is asking to be listened to. You want to answer it without upending your whole life. There’s already a lot that is going well.
You feel grateful for the Greta Thunberg’s of the world, but you know this is not your path. Your way is more quiet. Your leadership comes from deep inside your heart. Where you’d love to land is trusting that what is most precious to you is what what the world needs.
You’ve done a lot of self-exploration. You might have enjoyed some relief. But there’s still some missing pieces. Perhaps you have lacked the right container to allow you to go deep enough to uncover what is truly important to you.
At different times, you might have felt out of place. As if the things that you cared about, others didn’t really understand or see in the same way you do. You might feel like your sensitivity is unwelcome to others, and even to yourself.
Being smart, responsible or perfectionist has served you well so far. But these strategies are less helpful when it comes to knowing what you really want and how to get there.
If something about my approach resonates, but it isn’t a perfect fit, email me and I’ll put you in touch with my network of coaches and therapists who share similar values. For many of us, our purpose is hidden under layers of pain or discomfort. Moments where culture and people communicated to us - perhaps unwittingly - that we were lacking. Perhaps by being ‘not enough’, or ‘too much’. The armour we built to protect our precious hearts might have served us well. But by now, it might be starting to feel a little heavy.
How we work
In our coaching sessions, I ask you open ended questions, and slowly, in your time, you colour in more of your internal map, giving you the insights about what’s blocking you and the accountability to help nudge you forward. My coaching is informed by continual learning and exploration into self-discovery, with an emphasis on curiosity, compassion and trusting the wisdom of your body. I bring a deep understanding of how systems and culture affect us from my previous life as a social researcher.
I support you to:
Stand strong, but not by masking or exhausting yourself; Your advocacy is fiercely loving, not a raging fire that leaves you exhausted.
Live your life in all of its full possibility. This include warm and loving relationships with others, fun and joy, as well as a clear focus for the way you contribute in the world.
Feel as if you are enough and you’ve done enough. It’s easy to say no or yes to what comes up in your life. You spend less time ruminating and second guessing yourself. Energy is unlocked to be fully present to your life, not as if you were a bystander witnessing and judging it.
Your response in stress is not your personality or something you can’t change. Responses can be traced back to losing connection with yourself somewhere along the way, perhaps because your curiosity wasn’t welcome by culture or family (or both).
Through coaching with me, you’ll gain skills in the delicate dance of meeting your needs while relating to others and what is happening in the world.
You can be rooted when everything around is unstable. You have this grounding because you are meeting what is really happening in your life.
Self-connection means you can show up in your life with a sense of ‘rightness’ and belonging. This goes for the way you speak to yourself (with more kindness), relate to others (with more patience, perspective and openness) and with your creative self-expression (momentum and energy!).
"…All my life I have searched for a place of belonging, a place that would become home… Home was the place where the me of me mattered. Home was the place I longed for, it was not where I lived"
– bell hooks
When you’re ready to dive in
I prefer to work with clients for longer periods, as the work we do together goes beyond the surface. My clients are ready to start changing patterns. The pace and focus is in your hands and we trust your direction as it unfolds.
There is no need to have full clarity about the specific changes you want to make in your life when you show up. A general sense that life just isn’t quite right is a great place to start.
While some coaches differentiate between ‘life’ and ‘career’, the patterns that are holding you from self-leadership will generally crop up across different parts of your life and don’t neatly delineate between professional and home life. So you can bring a work or a home issue to your coaching session, and as we explore this, changes in one part of your life will end up flowing to the other parts of your life.
Holistic coaching for
self-leadership
Inspired by the Bowerbird
Bowerbird Coaching takes inspiration from the Satin Bowerbird. He builds a ‘bower’-like nest made of sticks and grass and decorates it with blue objects of all kinds. We will work to connect with the essential parts of you - your “blue objects “. These are the needs and values that have always been there but can feel crowded out by an accumulation of past experience or others’ needs.
Like the Bowerbird’s nest, your life doesn’t need to look perfectly neat. It’s beautiful, intricate and unique, and that’s what draws others in. We can more easily face life’s challenges, decide next steps and define our boundaries once we know what’s important to us and develop the self-connection skills to even work out what’s important.
We explore what could be possible for you with a focus on the future. I’ll be alongside you asking questions that lead you to connect with your body, needs and wisdom. I provide a non-judgmental and empathetic presence for you and a series of different coaching pathways that lead you towards clarity.
