I coach women in mid-life to take steps towards lasting change.

If you’re a woman in your mid 30s to early 50s and have been struggling with finding ease and purpose, there’s good reasons why. Your plate is likely overflowing and you’re also coming to a point in life where meaning might take on more weight than external success. Maybe you’ve experienced some relief from seeking help on the hormonal front. You’ve digested some great books and podcasts. You might have enjoyed some relief through spiritual or transcendent experiences. Maybe, you’ve checked out the neurodiversity space.

All of these paths will likely have provided some support. And generally, there’s lots going well in your life, but your day to day is still lacking the peace and energy you long for.

Signs of mid-life awakening can look like:

• Feeling overwhelmed; you are never fully on top of things

• Waking up at 3am with worries that don’t make a lot of sense (you’re totally capable of navigating these issues) then feeling tired but wired during the day

• Feeling irritable and snappy and losing perspective on everyday things

• Scrolling or tuning out more than you’d like

• Being triggered or overly sensitive to people and situations, and wishing you were showing up with more presence and perspective.

While all of this is frustrating, exhausting and confusing, life is not torturing us for nothing. These are signs that you are longing for wholeness. To bring home parts of yourself that have been neglected thought the striving and busyness of your 20s and 30s.

For many of us, purpose and motivation are hidden under layers of pain or discomfort. Moments where culture and people communicated to us - perhaps unwittingly - that we were lacking. Perhaps by being ‘not enough’, or ‘too much’. The armour we built to protect our precious hearts might have served us well till mid-life. But by now, it might be starting to feel a little heavy.

Where coaching takes you

Coaching with me helps you map your inner world. Through open ended questions, grounded in non-judgement, you colour in more of your internal map, giving you the insights about what’s blocking you from moving forward and the accountability to help nudge you forward. My coaching is informed by continual learning and exploration into self-discovery, with a focus on curiosity and embodiment. Added to this, I bring my academic background with my lived experience so I can accompany you as you create a richer life for you and your loved ones.

The gold that comes out of melting our inner blocks includes:

• The relief of connecting with people who care about the same things you do. You feel some momentum towards creative self-expression

• The issues that triggered you, now make you slightly annoyed. You can respond with more humour and a sense of possibility, rather than full body rage or sadness

• It’s easy to say no or yes to what comes up in your life. You spend less time ruminating and second guessing yourself

• Your advocacy in the world is fiercely loving, not a raging fire that leaves you exhausted

• You have a felt sense of clarity, calm and perspective. Some familiar playfulness you haven’t felt for awhile creeps back into your day.

Your response to the stresses that come with mid-life is not your personality or something you can’t change. For most of us, these responses can be traced back to losing connection with ourself.

Through coaching with me, you’ll gain skills in the delicate dance of meeting your needs while relating to others and what is happening in the world.

You can be rooted when everything around is unstable. You have this grounding because you are meeting what is really happening in your life.

Self-connection means you can show up in your life with a sense of ‘rightness’. This goes for the way you speak to yourself (with more kindness), relate to others (with more patience, perspective and openness) and with your creative self-expression (momentum and energy!).

How we work together

I prefer to work with clients for at least 4-6 sessions over 3 months, as the work we do together goes beyond the surface. My clients, usually women in mid-life, are ready to start changing patterns. The pace and focus is in your hands and we trust your direction as it unfolds as needed.

There is no need to have full clarity about the specific changes you want to make in your life when you show up. A general sense that life just isn’t quite right is a great place to start.

Holistic coaching

While some coaches differentiate between ‘life’ and ‘career’, the patterns that are holding you from self-leadership will generally crop up across different parts of your life and don’t neatly delineate between professional and home life. So you can bring a work or a home issue to your coaching session, and as we explore this, changes in one part of your life will end up flowing to the other parts of your life.

"…All my life I have searched for a place of belonging, a place that would become home… Home was the place where the me of me mattered. Home was the place I longed for, it was not where I lived" – bell Hooks