What’s happening?

I coach women in mid-life to connect with what makes them feel alive - what moves them.

If you’re a woman in your mid 30s to late early 50s and have been struggling, there’s lots of things you might have tried. Maybe you’ve explored the hormonal angle. You’ve read smart self-help books and listened to podcasts. You might have enjoyed some (temporary) relief through intense spiritual or transcendent experiences. Maybe, you’ve explored whether you’re neurodiverse. There’s lots going right in your life, but your day to day is still lacking the quality of peace and energy you long for.

Signs of mid-life awakening can look like:

• Often feeling overwhelmed; you are never on top of things

• Waking up at 3am with worries that don’t make a lot of sense (you’re totally capable of navigating these issues) then feeling tired but wired during the day

• Feeling irritable and snappy and losing perspective on everyday challenges

• Scrolling or tuning out more than you’d like

• Being triggered and overly sensitive to people and situations, but wishing you were showing up with more presence and perspective.

While all of this is frustrating, exhausting and confusing, life is not torturing us for nothing. These are common signs that you are longing for wholeness. To bring home parts of yourself that have been neglected thought the striving and busyness of your 20s and 30s.

For many of us, purpose and motivation are hidden under layers of pain. Moments where culture and people communicated to us - perhaps unwittingly - that we were lacking in some way. Perhaps by being ‘not enough’, or ‘too much’. The armour we built to protect our precious hearts might have served us well till mid-life. But by now, it might be starting to feel a little heavy.

Where coaching takes you

Coaching with me gives you the map of your inner world. Through open ended questions, grounded in non-judgement, you colour in more of your internal map, giving you the insights about what’s blocking you from moving forward and the accountability to help nudge you forward in your life.

The gold that comes out of meeting our inner blocks include:

• The relief of connecting with people who care about the same things you do. You feel some momentum towards creative self-expression

• The issues that triggered you make you slightly annoyed. You can respond with more humour and a sense of possibility, rather than full body rage or sadness

• It’s easy to say no or yes to what comes up in your life. You spend less time ruminating and second guessing yourself

• Your advocacy in the world is fiercely loving, not a raging fire that leaves you exhausted

• You have a felt sense of clarity, calm and perspective. Some familiar playfulness you haven’t felt for a long time creeps back into your day.

Your response to stress is not your personality or something you can’t change. For most of us acting out can be traced back to a moment where we have lost connection with ourselves.

Through coaching with me, you’ll find yourself more and more skilled at the delicate dance of meeting your needs while relating to others and what is happening in the world.

You get to be more in ‘self-leadership’.. Here, you can be rooted when everything around is unstable. you have this grounding because you are meeting what is really happening in your life.

Self-connection means you can show up in your life with a sense of ‘rightness’. This goes for the way you speak to yourself (with more kindness), relate to others (with more patience, perspective and openness) and with your creative self-expression (momentum and energy!).

How we work together

I prefer to work with clients for at least 4-6 sessions over 3 months as the work we do together goes beyond the surface. Women in mid-life are usually ready to start changing patterns. The pace and focus is in your hands and your system already knows what it needs.

There is no need to have full clarity about the specific changes you want to make in your life when you show up. A general sense that life just isn’t quite right is a great place to start.

While some coaches differentiate between ‘life’ and ‘career’, the patterns that are holding you from self-leadership will generally crop up across different parts of your life and won’t distinguish between professional and home life. So you can bring a work or a home issue and as we explore this, changes in one part of your life will end up flowing to the other parts of your life.

"…The real revolution is not empowerment culture. It’s women being so connected to themselves and to nature that no one outside of them can control who they are" – Gabrielle Naomi (Chinese medicine doctor)